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size=2>From: Daniel Eidensohn <yadmoshe@012.net.il><BR>>>However if
the potential mate is in fact observant but is a baal tshuva <BR>or a ger.
or a mixed marriage of American and Israeli or ashkenaz with <BR>sefardi? A
litvak marrying a chasid? What about biracial? If the person <BR>is retarded or
has Down's syndrome? What about ben or bas nidah? Former <BR>drug addict or
alcoholic?<BR><BR>Does anyone know of psak in these types of
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size=2>Don't know a source -- only anecdotal. One case I know of was
a young man who married the daughter of a giyores -- the chassan's parents
refused to come to the wedding, even though my father got involved himself
and tried to persuade the parents to change their minds. The parents were
eventually reconciled to their son's marriage -- they went to the bris when
their first grandchild was born.</FONT></DIV>
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size=2>The other case I know of was the marriage of a BT man (who had
been frum a long time and had learned in mainstream yeshivos) and FFB
woman where my father said, in regard to the question of ben nidah, "Yeshiva is
a mikva."</FONT></DIV>
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size=2>My impression is that my father wouldn't have given a blanket psak -- one
may marry against his parents' wishes, period -- but would want to know on a
case by case basis whether the parents' objections were justified, before
advising the chassan (and kallah) what to do.</FONT></DIV>
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size=2>This gets into "da'as Torah" territory, which some object to because it
is somewhat amorphous and depends on how much you trust the particular da'as
Torah you're consulting. Some people want clear psak with written sources,
and will not be satisfied with anything else.</DIV></FONT>
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<DIV><FONT lang=0 face=Arial color=#0000ff size=2 FAMILY="SANSSERIF"
PTSIZE="10"><BR><B>--Toby
Katz<BR>=============</B></FONT></DIV></FONT><BR><BR><BR><DIV><FONT style="color: black; font: normal 10pt ARIAL, SAN-SERIF;"><HR style="MARGIN-TOP: 10px">See what's free at <A title="http://www.aol.com?ncid=AOLAOF00020000000503" href="http://www.aol.com?ncid=AOLAOF00020000000503" target="_blank">AOL.com</A>. </FONT></DIV></BODY></HTML>