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size=2>From: "Akiva Blum" <A
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size=2>>> I know a number a people that daven mincha and kabolas shabos
with an early shabos minyan, go home for the seuda, and after finishing the
seuda...they return to shul to join the late- shabos maariv.... when is the best
time for singing shalom aleihem? When do the malachim come? After kabolas
shabos, or after maariv?<BR>What should someone do if he decided to say kabolas
shabos at home?<<<BR><BR>Akiva<BR></FONT></DIV><FONT
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size=2>I can put this in a cynical sounding way, or in a chassidish sounding
way, but either way the answer would be the same: a. cynical -- do you
/really/ think malachim come to your house every week -- and that it
matters to them when, or whether, you sing to them? Do you really think
the malachim come home with the Abba from shul, and if he doesn't go to shul --
they don't come? b. chassidish -- the malachim come when they are
welcomed.</FONT></DIV>
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size=2>In either case, the answer is the same: you sing Sholom Aleichem
when you want to. </FONT></DIV>
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size=2>Until about 500 years ago, there was no such song as Sholom Aleichem, so
I don't think there is really a "must" time for singing it. I've
heard of people not wanting to keep hungry guests waiting on a very late Friday,
and therefore singing Sholom Aleichem after the first course.
We never make Shabbos early except when invited out to the homes of others who
do, but if we did make Shabbos early, I would opt for singing before the
meal. </FONT></DIV>
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size=2>Since the malachim look around to see if the home is Shabbosdik, they
must come right after kabalas Shabbos -- not after a late ma'ariv when
you've already put the food away, the table is no longer set, and the candles
have gone out! Would you want them to look around then and say, "So may it
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PTSIZE="10"><BR><B>--Toby
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