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<font size=3>At 03:38 PM 10/03/2006, you wrote:<br>
<blockquote type=cite class=cite cite="">Why can't they make their own
havdalah? Whether women are obligated<br>
in havdalah or not, mimah nafshach they are yotze. Or are you<br>
concerned about bracha levatalah, if it should turn out that they<br>
are not obligated?</font></blockquote><br>
Yes, this is a factor, the question of a woman making the
brocha.<br><br>
<blockquote type=cite class=cite cite=""><font size=3>At whose
expense? If the wife is at shul, and so is the husband,<br>
then they will go home together, at a time and pace that is mutually<br>
convenient. And surely whoever is at home with the kids can feed
them.</font></blockquote><br>
At the husband's expense. If the wife stays in shul to daven Maariv, then
they will have to wait longer when he gets home until the food is heated
up. On the other hand, if the wife goes home right after shofar blowing,
then she can get a head start on getting the meal ready to be
served.<br><br>
As far as feeding the kids, if there is a non-Jewish baby sitter at home,
then feeding the kids can involve all sorts of problems. <br><br>
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<blockquote type=cite class=cite cite=""><font size=3>PS: My shul always
has a "havdalah" after maariv, so everyone can<br>
stay for maariv, nobody has to go home hungry, and kiddush levana<br>
can be said besimcha, *after* breaking the fast.</font></blockquote><br>
There was a time when all shuls made Havdalah after all Shabbosim and
Yomim Tovim. This is no longer the case in many places. One person wrote
to me that his shul made Havdalah for everybody and then served some
snacks and drinks to all. This to me avoids all concerns. <br><br>
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