[Avodah] Bakoshas Mechila and Being Mefayess

[Micha Berger]

On Wed, Sep 18, 2024 at 12:41:35PM +1000, Rabbi Meir G. Rabi via Avodah wrote:
> The RaMBaMs ruling that one must confess their interpersonal sins in public?

2:5 opens "Veshshevach gadol lashav sheyisvadeh berabbim", which to me
would imply it's not an obligation.

> Has anyone heard of the following being practiced or advocated in recent
> times?
> The sinner approaching 3 friends of the victim and persuading them to
> approach the victim, together with the sinner,
> that they appeal to their friend, the victim, to forgive the sinner?

In 2:9, this is something to do if you cannot get the offended party to
forgive you any other way. So, you ask friends for help. Not sure why
it wouldn't be practiced. Seems like solid common-sense advice.

Unless telling those friends what you did would further embarass or
offend the other party.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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