[Avodah] 2 Qs re Tochacha - Ongoing Forever; Diff Degree of Tochachah for Different Situations

[Micha Berger]

On Wed, Mar 13, 2024 at 05:30:44PM +1100, Rabbi Meir G. Rabi via Avodah wrote:
> Chazal explain, the repetitive terminology indicates 'even one thousand times'
> Why is this necessary? If one checks numerous Esrogim or blows countless
> Tekios, and all are Passul, might one think that the duty no longer exists?

Maybe because mutav sheyihyu shogegim would lead me to conclude that if
they aren't accepting my tokhachah, I should give up rather than make
future chataim worse by adding to their bemeizid-ness.

...
> Is it the same if he has insulted someone and has refused to request and
> gain Mechilah? or perhaps since he is no longer engaging in that behaviour,
> one need not continue to offer Tochacha?

This is more like peshat in the pasuq, as explained by the Chizquni and
others, than Chazal's derashah-level explanation.

To Chazel, the nature of the sin isn't relevent to the mitzvah of tokhachah.

But to this parshanim, all three clauses in the pasuq are connected:
   Lo sisna es achikha bilvavekha
How?
   Hokheiach tokhiach es amisekha
When he did something that hurt your feelings, let him know. Give him a
chance to clear the air. Maybe he didn't realize what he did, or that it
was hurtful. Or just underestimated how hurtful it was. Or just after you
humanizing the pain you felt, he will regret a conscious decision to hate
you...
   Velo sisa alav cheit
And then you won't bear the sin of hating him in your heart because of what
he did.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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