[Avodah] Waiving mourning practices

[Rich, Joel]

Interesting article by R' S. Brody in the upcoming Hakira concerning parents waiving their "right" to mourning after shloshim. My question, almost partially addressed in the article, is assuming such a waiver is effective, is it what HKB"H wants of us?
Such a waiver certainly would help the children avoid difficult issues, not just event related such as weddings, but every day issues as well. Assumedly they could still choose to observe the strictures they choose but from a strictly halachic basis will their reward (as a stand in for HKBH's happiness) be as great? From a hashkafic viewpoint is the waiver sending the right message?

KT
Joel Rich

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