[Avodah] kaddish yatom by non-mourner
Zev Sero
zev at sero.name
Thu Sep 20 13:27:48 PDT 2018
On 20/09/18 15:07, Rich, Joel via Avodah wrote:
> Interesting, since it says that one could say it unless the parent
> is makpid, then it is at some level a halachic question -what degree
> of hakpada would be required?
It would seem any degree is sufficient.
> Also what percentage of the orthodox Jewish world today makes the
> differentiation between what is asked a "Rav" versus a "Rebbi"?
It's not a halachic question at all. If they're asking whether there's
any reason al pi torah whether they *should* feel upset then the rov can
tell them there isn't, but that it's a legitimate feeling to have.
> Another question - when one has 2 mitzvot in front of them, would it
> not be a halachic question which to give precedence to if all the
> standard measures are equal ?
But there's no question that upsetting ones parents is a avera, while
saying kaddish is not any sort of chiyuv on any individual. So each
person whose parents will be hurt if he says it has an easy cheshbon to
make: don't say it. If that means nobody says it, so be it.
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Zev Sero A prosperous and healthy 5779 to all
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