[Avodah] Rav Avigdor Miller on The Learning Boy

[Prof. Levine]

Rav Avigdor Miller on The Learning Boy

Q:
What should a girl do if her chosson says that he intends to learn forever?
A:
She should change her mind about him and she should look for somebody 
else. Every man has the right to learn for a certain amount of time 
but he must be clear in his conviction that eventually he must 
support his family. If a young man makes a condition with his kallah 
that he will be learning forever no matter what, then he is not a 
useful person at all. Forget about him.

Now, it could be that sometimes things work out. He might, let's say, 
get a very big stipend from a Kollel. Or sometimes he might, for 
example, get an opportunity to give shiur in a high-level Mesivta. 
He's saying a shiur for talmidei chachomim and he's making a parnasa. 
That's a pleasure! And then he can learn forever. Sure, why not?
But if he makes a stipulation beforehand - if he tells you, "I'm 
never going to work," then I think that you should forget about him.
TAPE # E-180

You may find the article 
"<https://na01.safelinks.protection.outlook.com/?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.jewishpress.com%2Findepth%2Ffront-page%2Fthe-obligation-to-support-a-family%2F2015%2F02%2F18%2F0%2F%3Fprint&data=02%7C01%7Cllevine%40stevens.edu%7C958f5038400441b165bb08d5f17b1306%7C8d1a69ec03b54345ae21dad112f5fb4f%7C0%7C1%7C636680433289986310&sdata=N7H27LHkJI89NHFpUdlSXx%2FXKCByt%2Bj4bh0R06KaeAE%3D&reserved=0>The 
Obligation to Support a Family"  The Jewish Press, February 18, 2015, 
front page.  on this topic also of interest.
YL

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