[Avodah] how to fix a mamzer

[Eli Turkel via Avodah]

In the shiur of R Zilberstein last night he discussed the situation of a
parent (usually father) who deserts a child in the hospital or even leaves
the family.

One case involved a father who showed up before the daughter's marriage and
insisted that his name appear on the wedding invitation. R. Zilberstein
paskened that the father who abandoned the family has absolutely no rights
to anything. If the mother remarried then the adoptive father has the right
to all decisions. Kibud Av ve-Em applies to the adoptive father and not the
biological father that abandoned the family. Hakarot hatov is for the help
of the adoptive family and biology contributes nothing.

Though not the topic of the shiur if the mother is a shifcha or a nonJew
the father (who stays with the family) is entitled to all rights of a
father including kibud Av independent of any halachot of yichus. He is not
worse than an adoptive parent (my conclusion not discussed in the shiur)

The only exception to this rule is sitting shiva. One is required to sit
shiva for the biological father and may sit shiva for the adoptive father.
When questioned he explained that not sitting shiva for a father even if he
did nothing for the family might hint of mamzerut

-- 
Eli Turkel
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