[Avodah] hakarat hatov
Rich, Joel via Avodah
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Thu Aug 27 10:55:37 PDT 2015
I must confess I don't know what you mean by "shushbein cases".
Zechiyah uMattanah - Chapter Seven
Translated by Eliyahu Touger
It is a universally accepted custom in most countries that when a man marries, his friends and acquaintances send him money to support the expenses he must undertake on behalf of his wife. Then the friends and acquaintances who sent him this money come and eat and drink with the groom during all - or part - of the seven days of wedding celebration; everything should be done according to the accepted local custom.
The money that he is sent is called shushvinut, and the people who send the money and then come and eat and drink with the groom are called shushvinin.
Shushvinut is not an outright gift. For it is plainly obvious that a person did not send a colleague 10 dinarim with the intent that he eat and drink a zuz's worth. He sent him the money solely because his intent was that when he would marry, he would send him money as he has sent him.
Therefore, if the sender marries a woman, and the recipient does not return the shushvinut, the sender may lodge a legal claim against the recipient and expropriate the money from him.
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