[Avodah] loss of infants

[Micha Berger]

On Wed, Jun 20, 2012 at 12:49:57AM -0400, Moshe Y. Gluck wrote:
: You are presuming that you can tell what a person is thinking and how
: deep his grief is (or is not) from the way he is acting. That is not
: necessarily true.

True, devarim shebeleiv einam devarim for a reason.

But if RAB's observation is statistical norm, one would have to ask why
a husband of one year would be capable of self-control more consistently
than the husband and children of an elderly person. I am just not sure
I'm willing to concede that his experience is typical.

There are also issues like /how/ a person died. Funerals for those
murdered, such as those for bombing victims during the intifadin (lo
aleinu), were much more demonstrative. Some of that "why them? why
me?" also comes into play.


Speaking as moderator, for a moment:
I don't know how much speculation about metzi'us I think is appropriate
for the list. OT1H it's off topic. OTOH, without it, we can't get back
to the topic of why the various lengths of aveilus without it. Just a
heads-up, for those thinking of replying, that depending on how I decide,
your post may not make it.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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