[Avodah] a poignant question

[T613K at aol.com]

Last night at the chevra kadisha seuda a lady who is already a  grandmother 
asked me a somewhat sad question. She told me that both her  parents had 
died within nine months, when she was 14 years old, and they had not  had a 
tahara. In fact they had had open caskets with a public viewing (which of  
course we would consider a bizayon). She asked me if this meant that her 
parents  could not rest in peace? A poignant question. 
 
Does it matter to the niftar really?  I don't know.

 
I reassured her that whatever discomfort had been caused to them by not  
having a proper Jewish burial no longer mattered and was long since over and  
done with, they are in the next world now. I also reassured her by telling 
her  that in a civilized country she can assume her parents were washed and 
dressed  before burial, even goyim do so, so she should set her mind to rest. 
I should  have added that even though they weren't frum, her parents are 
having nachas  from seeing her and her children and grandchildren living frum  
lives.

 
--Toby Katz
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Romney -- good values, good  family, good  hair


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