[Avodah] Consumer Alert: Minhog Scams On The Rise!

[Poppers, Michael]

In Avodah V28n102, RDS noted that the minhag for the tzibbur to say "N'qadeish" seems contra SA (never mind GRA and MB) and wrote:
> Conclusion: Halocho is a free for all. There's a correct way to do
things and then there's the way everybody does it, which is OK since
everybody does it.
> - Danny, puzzled. <
This isn't the first or the last issue where g'dolim (or at least g'dolei hapos'qim) insist that a certain derech is proper/l'halacha yet "nispasheit haminhag" to do differently.  One of my favorite questions for the hamon am is the widespread Eastern European (now also American) "minhag" for bochurim not to be misateif batalis until marriage, despite its once being only a Rhine-region custom (see the bottom of http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=8918&pgnum=129 ) which pos'qim (e.g. BH 17:4) strongly question at least re b'nei mitzva. 

All the best from 
-- Michael Poppers via BB pager