[Avodah] and if it was a nedder?

[Zev Sero]

On 24/05/2011 5:01 PM, Micha Berger wrote:
> On Tue, May 24, 2011 at 11:12:16AM -0700, Saul.Z.Newman at kp.org wrote:
> : http://lifeinisrael.blogspot.com/2011/05/interesting-psak-from-rav-elyashiv_24.html
> :
> : could her  promise of celibacy be annulled?   is it a bad omen to try?
>
> Could it ever take hold? For a man, given that it's a neder that is
> keneged halakhah, I'm pretty sure it wouldn't. But if the neder were
> made by a single woman (such as this widow), is it sufficiently against
> the Torah to be inherently non-binding?

*Is* it against the Torah?  You've quoted several times a psak din that
the widow of a kadosh may not remarry.  And of course the widow of a king
may not remarry.  So we see that the Torah does accept such a concept.
Why then is it against the Torah (rather than merely a bad idea) for a
widow to regard her husband as if he were of such a stature that it would
be wrong for her to remarry?  Why is it against the Torah (rather than
merely selfish and pretentious) for a man to want his wife to regard him
in such a manner?  And therefore why should she not take such a neder?

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