[Avodah] ktuba of son of non jewish father

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From: menucha _menu at inter.net.il_ (mailto:menu at inter.net.il) 



Thank you everyone for your answers.  The couple are not willing  to go 
along with a solution of the public/private or written/read ktuba, or  
any such solution. 


 
 
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If the chassan and kallah are trying to force some kind of  public 
acknowledgement that the marriage of a non-Jew and a Jew is OK bedi'eved,  their 
wishes absolutely should not be accommodated even if it causes them and  their 
family pain.  It causes all Torah Jews pain, but we can only do what  we can 
do.  The Reform and Conservative are constantly leaving us with  major 
messes that we are expected to mop up -- how did the kallah's mother come  to 
marry a non-Jew, anyway?  -- but we can only bend so  far.  We have a 
responsibility to help our fellow Jews to the  extent that is possible, but we also 
have a responsibility to uphold our  eternal Torah.  Usually those goals are 
congruent; here they are at  odds.    Many solutions have been suggested 
with the goal of sparing  these people's feelings, but it seems they want more 
-- they want the  halacha changed for their sake.  If they are intent on 
changing the Torah,  well, that's what C rabbis are for.
 

--Toby Katz
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