[Avodah] Tzitz Eliezer: Leaving A Wedding Or Sheva Brachos Before Birchas HaMazon

[Prof. Levine]

 From http://revach.net/article.php?id=5100

After Birchas HaMazon at a Chasuna or Sheva Brachos, the Sheva 
Brachos are said. Is a person who participated in the Seudah allowed 
to Bentch and leave before the Sheva Brachos (provided that he is in 
accordance with the halachos of Zimun) or is everyone obligated to 
stay until the end?

The Tzitz Eliezer (11:84) says that many people are not makpid to 
stay and leave early. He says that this custom can be justified and 
that in fact the Minchas Yitzchok says that if one needs to leave for 
an important reason before Birchas HaMazon he may do so.

The Tzitz Eliezer relies on Rav Shlomo Kluger who says that the 
obligation of Sheva Brachos is not triggered by the Seudah but rather 
by Birchas HaMazon itself, meaning that until they have said Birchas 
HaMazon there is no obligation of Sheva Brachos. Therefore if one can 
halachically leave before Birchas HaMazon he was never obligated in 
Sheva Brachos in the first place.

This chiddush has a number of halachic ramifications. According to 
this if a Sheva Brachos is made on the last day, even if the whole 
seudah is eaten before nighttime but Birchas HaMazon was not yet said 
until after nighttime, Sheva Brachos cannot be said anymore, since it 
depends purely on Birchas HaMazon which is not within the seven days.

Another point is that if the Panim Chadashos leaves before Birchas 
HaMazon, Sheva Brachos cannot be said. Moreover he may even leave 
early (provided he does not violate the Chiyuv of Zimun) and has not 
"ruined" the Sheva Brachos because before Birchas HaMazon it is not 
even a consideration.

Yitzchok Levine 
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