[Avodah] wife lighting menora

[Goldmeier]

The Ram"a says the Yesh Omrim that is the basic minhag ashkenaz (I 
think) based on the RAMBAM that everyone in the house should light their 
own set of candles.

The mishna brura adds that this does not include the wife because of the 
rule of "Eeshto K'Gufo".

I don't know if the MB is the only one to say this exception, but I have 
not found it elsewhere, though it seems to have become the common psak, 
at least among the ashkenazy yeshivishe community in Eretz Yisroel.

Where else do we find a wife being excluded from a mitzva because of the 
exception of eeshto k'gufo? I could not think of any other mitzva where 
we exclude her like this. If this is the only one, what is different 
about Chanukah candles that we exclude her (and this is so despite the 
women being central to the miracle, ala Yehudis who cut off the 
governors head) than by any other mitzva?

Kol tuv
Rafi Goldmeier