[Avodah] Children at a Wedding

[Micha Berger]

On Thu, Oct 29, 2009 at 09:25:45AM +0200, Ben Waxman wrote:
: Some were, some weren't. Protestants could and Catholics who lived in the 
: US/non-Catholic countries could get a divorce.

Except that we're talking about what was done in "the old country",
and what was established minhag. Sepharadim and Yekkes come from lands
where the dominant religion allowed divorce. Most Ashkenazim come from
countries that were either Catholic or Russian Orthodox. Russian Orthodoxy
has divorce, according to http://www.oca.org/QA.asp?ID=139&SID=3 . And in
Poland, where Catholicism held sway, we were granted strong autonomy --
including divorce.

In short, nearly all of us come from communities where divorce was a
possibility. Which means that it was possible to have a minhag about
whether children attend their parents' remarriage.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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