[Avodah] on whose cheshbon??? rochel, leah, tamar and embarrasment....

[Harvey Benton]

On a related topic to rmb's response (below) to who was yaakov's real wife: my question is as follows: we are taught from the yehuda/tamar story that it is better to be burned at the stake than to embarrass someone. However, with the rochel case, she didn't want to embarrass her sister, not on her own cheshbon's account (like tamar) but on yaakov's account. Was this proper???
hb
rmb:BTW, who said that Leah wasn't Yaaqov's true wife? Reflect on how Yaaqov's
life actually went. Racheil died young. For the vast majority of his life,
it was him, Leah, and the shefachos.
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