[Avodah] Sources for several wedding customs

[Micha Berger]

On Thu, Feb 26, 2009 at 08:59:11AM +0200, Ben Waxman wrote:
: A friend asked if anyone knows the sources of the following customs:
: 1) The custom that seems to have developed over the last 6 years or so (or
: more?) of the bride and groom blessing their friends at the wedding

I wonder about the permissability of this one. Yes, it's an eis ratzon
and all that. But eilu devarim... vehachnasas kallah.... Is this really
the right time to ask her to leave her own joy and share in the pain of
her friends who haven't found anyone yet?

...
: 3) The custom of the groom wrapping the tallit around the bride after he
: makes the shehechayanu on it. Someone told me it's a "Carlebach" thing (the
: part where they go totally under the tallit, like hidden); I suspect there's
: some Sephardi influence there as well.

As well as Yekkish. RSC might have been leveraging his ancestors' minhag
for how the couple hear sheva berakhos under the chuppah. Sepharadim do
it as well, but given RSC's origins, I more suspect some Yekki
influence.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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