[Avodah] Wedding Rings for Men

[Micha Berger]

On Tue, Feb 24, 2009 at 04:35:51PM +0200, Dov Ber Ballon wrote:
:> And a man who goes to work with a flirtatious woman is better off with her
:> not even trying.

: True, but that might not justify a widespread acceptance of a new minhag. In
: his particular case, if he's attractive, and she is unaware and etc.
: perhaps.

Since when are we gozeir arayos in such a way? If it's a good idea for
some, then it is a good enough idea to make a general policy. I was saying
that a wedding ring isn't an issue of the man's willingness to stray,
but a warning for female co workers not to bother well before it gets that
far. And thus we have no /less/ motivation than does the rest of society.

It's also not an issue of minhag, but of whether change in fashion
violates the din. Unless you don't wear buttons, ties, or anything else
newer than the old chaluq and tallis that we probably wore in the midbar.

On Tue, Feb 24, 2009 at 10:54:02AM -0800, Harry Maryles wrote:
: And that - as we know - can invalidate the Kiddushin if it were done
: under the Chupa in immediate sequence to her acceptance of his ring
: (because it looks like she is giving him back the ring she just got
: from him - unless it is clearly spelled out that that is not what she
: is doing.)

So, let's say it was given during yichud or later...

I stand by my guess that the problem most are stuck on really simlas
ishah. In the qehillos where the numer of men who wear a wedding band
is negligable, the fedora is still "in", and thus innovations like men
wearing wedding rings couldn't gain acceptance.

In the MO world, some wear, some don't. As those that wear, the vast
majority explicitly address RHM's issue.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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