[Avodah] Wedding Rings for Men

[Dov Ber Ballon]

 On Thu, Feb 19, 2009 at 11:37 PM, Yitzhak Grossman <celejar at gmail.com>wrote:


> It became the custom for US soldiers going to war to publicise their
> marital status by the wearing of a man's wedding ring. They were happy
> to make public their commitment to their wife by the wearing of a
> public symbol that declared that commitment to all. Given that this
> habit of wearing men's wedding bands was reasonably new it was all the
> more creditable that these men were willing to forego the marital
> obscurity available to them from not wearing a ring and actively chose
> to make a public statement about their choice.
>
> Men's wedding rings have become increasingly more common since that
> time."
>

Perhaps this alone is a reason for men NOT to wear the ring. The need to
anounce to others your marital status is far more significant in a culture
where the norn is to flirt with members of the oposite sex. The ring
declares that this one is not available. For a man who anyway would not
flirt or wish to be flirted with, the ring does not declare his loyalty.

Micha wrote:
>>And a man who goes to work with a flirtatious woman is better off with her
not even trying.

True, but that might not justify a widespread acceptance of a new minhag. In
his particular case, if he's attractive, and she is unaware and etc.
perhaps.

Akiva
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