[Avodah] Asei doche lav and mitzvah haba'ah ba'avererah

[Kayza Zajac]

On Wed, 2008-05-21 at 09:06 -0700, avodah-request at lists.aishdas.org
wrote:
> This thread was launched by a discussion of asei dokheh lav vs mitzvah
> habaah ba'aveira.

Fair point.  But, to be honest, I was really sloppy, because I was
focusing on the other issue.  What I was really thinking about was the
specific obligation that she had to not hug him, vs the question of what
her obligation to him was.  I seriously doubt that she had any specific
hahachik obligation to comfort him, certainly not in any way he chose.  

In any case, I don't really think that this is the real, main issue
here.  I see that others have said much the same thing that I did.
Insisting on a hug was out of line.  

I think, by the way, that Toby would be interested to note that this is
one more place where common sense and feminism would overlap - feminists
may not believe in being shomer negiah, but they sure do believe that if
a woman doesn't want to hug or kiss or touch in any other, it's wrong to
push it.

-- Kayza