[Avodah] kaddish

[Eli Turkel]

<<The way I understand it, saying kaddish is a zekhus for the niftar,
but by no means the only way that a chid's actions can be a zekhus for
a deceased parent.  Even if one were to argue that the desire to be
mezakeh one's parents is an understandable, or even laudable reason
that saying kaddish might be given unusual weight when it comes up
against other values, wouldn't hakpadah on hilkhos berakhos (in the
case of the hefseik between the tefilin) or hilkhos keria's shema` be
an even bigger zekhus? >>

I tink this is obviously true. First poskim say that being shliach tzibbur
on a yahrzeit is a biiger zechus then saying kaddish. Remember that
in the original minhag the kaddish was split and someone might say
kaddish only once on a yahrzeit

There is a famous story (I believe the chatam Sofer) of several people
who were fighting to be shatz on the same time. CS voluntarily gave it
up saying the zechus of avoiding a fight was greater then saying a
kaddish or being shatz through a fight.
I have also seen poskim that object to the minhag of splitting a
minyan so that 2 people can be shliach tzibbur at the same time

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Eli Turkel