[Avodah] Having a boyfriend equivalent to being married?

[Micha Berger]

On Tue, Dec 11, 2007 at 10:50:31PM -0800, Josh E. wrote:
: Suppose a woman has several boyfriends, who she was intimate with, prior
: to becoming a baalas teshuvah. Now, there is a chazakah of "Ein adam oseh
: b'ilaso bi'ilas zenus". If the chazakah applies to her, we assume the biah
: was not for zenus but for kiddushin...
: You might say that the chazakah doesn't apply to her because she was
: not observant. What if she was, but just transgressed in this one
: particular area?

I would think that RYBS's response to R' Rackman's beis din would be
loosely applicable. RYBS says that tav lemeisiv is inherently true
based on Chava's qelalah and is an existential reality regardless of
how society changed.

This opens the door to saying something parallel for other chazaqos.
Perhaps it's a deep human truth, that no matter how much she consciously
is willing to be a perutzah, her yetzer hatov is thinking "this is *the
real thing* and we're going to be together forever", justifying it in
context of marriage.


RZS's notion that any eidim could probably assumed to be pasul was
inspired. It's one of those cases where the answer ocmes from a direction
the questioner wasn't looking.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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