[Avodah] kaddish kashes

[Micha Berger]

On Sun, July 8, 2007 7:57 am, Rich, Joel wrote:
: In Nefesh Harav (P135) R'HS  brings down the M"A who quotes the kadima
: order for kaddish....

In "Frum or Ehrlich" (REQUIRED READING!) R' Prof YLevine provides the
following story about RYS from Tenu'as haMussar:

On one of the anniversaries of his father's death, R. Israel was in
Memel. He was informed that someone else in the synagogue wished to
say Kaddish. Now R. Israel was very insistent that only one person at
a time be allowed to recite the Kaddish at the services and apparently
this congregation had complied with his ruling.

Reb Yitzchak Isaacson was observing the yahrzeit of a daughter who had
died very young. Now the Halachah gives precedence to a son observing
the yahrzeit of a parent on these occasions, and R. Israel was
obviously entitled to the privilege. Sensing the grief he would cause
the father by depriving him of the opportunity to say Kaddish for his
daughter, R. Israel went up to him and said: “You sir, will say
Kaddish.”

The worshippers expressed their surprise. Not only had R. Israel
yielded his own right, but also overlooked the duty of honoring his
father, since he was, by law, obliged to say Kaddish. He explained to
them that the merit of extending kindness (gemilut chesed) to a fellow
Jew possessed far greater value than the saying of Kaddish. (pages 248
– 249)

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