[Avodah] Fw: yefas toar

[SBA]

From: "SBA" <sba at sba2.com>
> I am not so sure about this being a true 'hetter' of 'rape'.
> See Kiddushin 22a, Rashi dh: Shelo Yilchotzeno Bamilchomo:
> "Lavoy oleho." Which may mean no rape, or to wait until
> he takes her home. (Admittedly Tosfos has a lot kashes on this.)
> Also see Rambam Hilchos Mishpotim 8:2-7 all the halachos concerning
> a 'yefas toar'. Definitely not the usual rape situation.

Maybe I should have added, that reading the Chumash, there is absolutely no
indication of rape. (Checking out the Chumash and rashi is always a good 
idea...)

"Velokachto lecho le'isho": "She'im ein HKBH matiro YISOENO be'issur. Avol
im NOSOH..."

Clearly talking about marriage - and not rape.

Ve'im tirtzah lomar that according to some shittos he may have relations
with her ONCE before the whole procedure, it's still FAR from the usual 
rape.
Again see Rashi on "Veheisiro simlas shivyo":  "Lefi sheheim naim, sheAkum
benoseihem miskashtos bamilchomo lehaznos acheirim imohem..."

Rape? She was ASKING for it...

SBA