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<span>Posted:</span> 06 Nov 2007 09:37 AM CST</p>
<div style="margin:0;font-family:Times New Roman, Times, serif;line-height:140%;font-size:12px;color:#000000;"><p>Not a positive thing.</p>
<p>A healthy marriage should include some fighting, and I was suggesting by parallel that a real relationship with the A-lmighty where the other partner is a human ought to be similar.</p>
<p>But marriage where one spouse wants divorce generally isn’t considered a healthy one.</p>
<p>If I may suggest a textbook (and therefore perhaps borderline trite) suggestion:</p>
<p>This fellow came to (Rav Yisrael, R’ Wolbe, the Meshekh Chokhmah, etc… depending on the teller) and said he wanted to give his wife a get.<br />
“Why?”<br />
“I don’t love her.”<br />
“You don’t love her? Or you don’t feel any love for her?”<br />
Feeling somewhat confused — “I don’t feel any love for her.”<br />
“So then love her all the more. Look for opportunities to give more of yourself to her.”</p>
<p>We often think of actions as expressions of feeling. One of the foundations of mussar, as well as of behavior mod, is that feelings also arise from action. Given that we have all experienced such feedback loops, there should be no surprise there.</p>
<p>-micha</p>
<p>PS: I also discuss the idea in <a href=http://www.aishdas.org/asp/2004/12/love-part-i.shtml rel="nofollow"> Love, part I</a>.</p>
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