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Comment on Angry at G-d by micha
 
Posted: 06 Nov 2007 09:37 AM CST
http://www.aishdas.org/asp/2007/10/angry-at-g-d.shtml#comment-14059


Not a positive thing.

A healthy marriage should include some fighting, and I was suggesting by parallel that a real relationship with the A-lmighty where the other partner is a human ought to be similar.

But marriage where one spouse wants divorce generally isnt considered a healthy one.

If I may suggest a textbook (and therefore perhaps borderline trite) suggestion:

This fellow came to (Rav Yisrael, R Wolbe, the Meshekh Chokhmah, etc depending on the teller) and said he wanted to give his wife a get.

Why?

I dont love her.

You dont love her? Or you dont feel any love for her?

Feeling somewhat confused  I dont feel any love for her.

So then love her all the more. Look for opportunities to give more of yourself to her.

We often think of actions as expressions of feeling. One of the foundations of mussar, as well as of behavior mod, is that feelings also arise from action. Given that we have all experienced such feedback loops, there should be no surprise there.

-micha

PS: I also discuss the idea in  Love, part I.




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