[Avodah] teshuva

[Eli Turkel via Avodah]

In the latest shiur of Rav Zilberstein we had a controversy.

Rav Zilberstein brought a story from Ben Ish Chai (in brief): A poor man
went a robbed the house of a rich widow. A short time later he regretted
his actions after learning that ones income is pre-determined. He then
returned the stolen items before the widow realized anything was gone.

A short time later the widow came to the Ben Ish Chai and requested that he
suggest a shidduch. Ben Ish Chai suggested this man (thief) and in fact
they got married and lived haooily married without the wife ever knowing
the story.

R Zilberstein was unhappy how the Ben Ish Chai could suggest this marriage
and felt that in fact it was a "mekach taut" since if the widow ever found
out about the robbery she would immediately demand a divorce.

Most of the doctors in the audience disagreed and felt that since the man
returned the money he was on the high level of ball teshuva. R
Zilberstein's response was that may be true between man and G-d but he
wouldn't want his daughter to marry such a man. I brought up the story of
Resh Lakish and R Yochanan and his response was that Chazal had ruach
hakodesh to understand the potential of Resh Lakish.

R Zilberstein quoted the Steipler who claimed that if a person has a
blemish (mum) that would prevent a marriage but would be overlooked once
the marriage was successful then one did not reveal this before the
marriage and it certainly is not a "mekach taut".  However, R Zilberstein
felt that robbery was such a serious crime that it would not be overlooked
after the marriage and returning the items was not sufficient.

The discussion ended in a stalemate with most doctors and R Zilberstein
sticking to their opposing sides. However, R Zilberstein did admit that
since Ben Ish Chai did it he (R Zilberstein) cannot oppose it even though
he doesn't understand it.

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Eli Turkel
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