[Avodah] Rav Shloime Volbe: Don't Hit Kids Above the Age of... 3
Prof. Levine
llevine at stevens.edu
Wed Oct 26 03:32:45 PDT 2011
From http://revach.net/article.php?id=1535
Rav Volbe writes in Sefer Zriah u'Binyan b'Chinuch that even though
the Gemara says that it is forbidden to hit a kid who is over sixteen
or according to another opinion 24 years old, according to the way
things are in our times, he says, one who hits a kid that is only 3
years old transgresses li'Fnei Iver because the child, even at that
age, will rebel against his father.
Once upon a time it was possible to hit a child without destroying
the relationship between the father and the child, nowadays it is no
longer possible. Hitting a child will always destroy the
relationship between the parents and the child. The Sefer Minchas
Shmuel says in the name of Rav Chaim Volozhin that harsh words do not
penetrate or make any positive impact and a parent should only speak
softly and with kindness. If in the times of Rav Chaim Volozhin this
was the case, certainly it is true in our times and even more so with
regards to children.
Times have changed. Rivka was suitable for marriage at age
three. Our kids are old enough to rebel at age three.
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