[Avodah] RSRH, Sinatra, and Love and Marriage

[Micha Berger]

On Tue, Nov 25, 2008 at 12:13:18PM -0500, T613K at aol.com wrote:
: There is nothing wrong with the lyrics, it's just a matter of
: whether you put the cart before the horse or the other way around.
: Either way there's a horse and a carriage.   Copacetic.

I'm not sure Reb Frank's words deserve such diyuqim, but as a
springboard for discussion...

As RYL pointed out to me in private email, "horse and carriage" implies
not just togetherness, but a kind of relationship between the two
entities.

Love between the genders exists to "pull" marriage.
Marriage exists in order to create love. Among other reasons, the love
for one's spouse is an important thing to develop for the sake of
sheleimus; it has value in its own right.

I am reminded of something RDLifshitz often said about the unity of
shalom and sheleimus. People are designed so that we can not objectively
see ourselves. Therefore, without shalom, we lack the people who could
help us acheive sheleimus. And clearly people who are not shaleim are
unable to acheive shalom with others.

True shalom is not a cessation of violence, but working together for a
greater whole.

To add my own 2 cents: And that's shalom bayis.

Tir'u baTov!
-Micha

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