[Avodah] Appeasing with Three Friends

[Cantor Wolberg]

R' Meir asked:   Has anyone ever heard of or participated in the  
process of appeasing someone
by employing the strategy of the sinner bringing friends to assist in  
placating the victim?

As I learned it, you would take three people (preferably, friends of  
the one you are asking to moichel you)
so that it might facilitate the aggrieved party to offer forgiveness.  
Also, I see the number three as significant
(chazakah, etc.). In addition the S.A. says that if the party refuses  
to forgive you the first time, then you ask a
second time. If he refuses a second time, you ask a third time. If he  
refuses to forgive you a third time, then the
aveira goes onto him.

ri
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