[Avodah] a troubling halacha

[Eli Turkel]

<<This should also apply to a male who doesn't say kaddish (a brother
of a woman who has grown sons for example).>>

Yes R. Zilberstein says this explicitly. He feels nobody should be
told of the death of a relative unless they need to say kaddish.
Intrinsically it has nothing to do with male or female.
Seating shiva and kriya are not necessary.
Again I still find it troubling

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Eli Turkel